More Than A Parent E003: The Concept of Multiple Returns w/ Angela Matthews

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Meet Angela!

Angela Matthew is a DIY investment coach, teaching individuals how to master the stock market. She has taught individuals from all walks of life how to grow their personal wealth and portfolios. She’s been investing personally for more than ten years, and through her investments, she’s been able to travel all over the world (35+ countries) take care of her parents, pay for her wedding, and buy her home. She wants others to be able to do the same and more.

www.angelaematthews.com

Angela and her daughter, Lea.
(Lea is my daughter, Skylyn’s best friend since they were born.)

In this episode…

>> I share how Angela’s friendship was one of my inspirations to start this podcast and community (it doesn’t just take a village to raise a baby! It takes a village to make you feel like your mostly-normal (heh) and that you “got this” as you venture the world of parenting and doing “all the things” you choose).

>> We learn about how many times Lea (almost 2 years old) has traveled well over probably what you + I traveled this year!

>> How investing in the stock market for you and your family is one of the best things you can do for your kids and their future kids.

>> Angela’s take on the concept of Multiple Returns. Invest in yourself, in your kids, and the stock market!

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Transcript:

Caz
Gaddis:                      00:00                   Welcome
to More Than A Parent, a podcast, exploring who we are and what we want outside
of being a parent so we can create an integrated lifestyle with impact both in
and out of our homes. I’m Caz Gaddis and I invite you to join me to be your
more live your and.

Caz
Gaddis:                      00:26                   Hey
guys, Caz here. Welcome to another episode of More Than A Parent. I am super
stoked today to share with you Angela Matthews. She is one of my dearest
friends and when I think of what it is to be More Than A Parent, and when I
think of my own journey in becoming one myself and becoming that more for
myself, I think back to the conversations and the, the times that I’ve spent
with Angela, sharing with her what my experience was like, my challenges, my
dreams, aspirations, and then doing some of those things and, and sharing what
was working, what wasn’t. We also shared a lot of very real [inaudible] infant
baby, toddler stories along the way of, of just being all those things and then
the life, right? So I am super stoked to bring her today because, um, it all
started with conversations like, Oh, like I had with her and feeling like we
weren’t having, or I didn’t feel like we were having a lot of those
conversations in general.

Caz
Gaddis:                      01:25                   And
I wanted to have people on the show examples to show what is possible and how
people are doing it because we’re all doing it differently. And it may not work
for everyone the way it is. Um, but you kind of find little bits and pieces of
what’s working for other people to create your own thing. And so I’m excited to
bring her on today to share with you what she has been able to create and who
she has been able to create herself to be, how she’s serving both in and out of
her home and making that impact. Um, so yay. So excited to have her on today. A
little bit about Angela. She is a DIY investment coach. She teaches individuals
on how to master the stock market. She is taught individuals from all walks of
life on how to grow their personal wealth and portfolios.

Caz
Gaddis:                      02:11                   Uh,
she’s been investing personally for more than 10 years. And through her investments,
she’s been able to travel all over the world, over 35 countries. Isn’t that
nice. And take care of her parents, pay for her wedding and buy her home. She
wants others to be able to do the same and more. So. Without further ado, check
out our interview of Angela Matthews.

Caz
Gaddis:                      02:35                   Awesome.
So I am super excited to have you on today, Angela, because as I mentioned to
you before, even, um, getting you scheduled for the show today is, uh, we’ve
both been on this parenting journey at very similar times and though each of us
has our own kind of, um, experience within it being able to have moms like you
to be able to connect with and like, Oh, is this happening to you? Or you were
trying to do webinar and what happened with Leah? You know, it’s, it’s, um,
it’s, it’s a way to normalize and not normal. And so I just, I really appreciate
you as a person and as a fellow, other human that is wanting to make that
impact both in and out of their home. Um, and just like all the funny stories
that we have in between all that. So, so welcome onto the show.

Angela
Matthews:          03:26                   Thank
you so much for having me oh man girl. I swear I’m already like getting an
ally. It’s the eyelash. Am I am not already tearing up man. Have we been
through the ringer? That’d be like your ice sweating right now. Eyelash. But
it’s probably a combination of both. As you said. All that. I just thought
about like, girl.

Caz
Gaddis:                      03:47                   Okay.

Angela
Matthews:          03:47                   I
can’t even say. You don’t know cause you do.

Caz
Gaddis:                      03:50                   Yeah.
Yeah. So for those of you that are listening in and are like, Whoa, like what’s
going on? So like Angela and I were both pregnant at the same time and we have
kiddos that are literally two weeks apart and we’re very good friends and live
close to each other. So we have a lot of, uh, parent and business adventures,
family adventures together. Yeah. Yeah. And, and with that, that feeling of, of
what we had, I, it really is part of what bursts More Than A Parent because
some moms, um, don’t have the blessing of having other moms in similar mindsets
as far as growing, not just a child, not just birthing a child, but birthing
whatever they’re more is. And so I wanted to bring this into fruition so that,
um, it normalizes that it is hard and it also shows that it is possible and
that is possible for you, for you listening in for you watching this. Um, so
we’re just gonna like jump right in and I’m going to ask you, even though I
know part of it, but of course you may share in a whole different way, but like
what has your journey been like and, and becoming a parent?

Angela
Matthews:          05:01                   So
becoming a parent was something that I knew that I always wanted to be and
would one day happen. I just didn’t think it would happen so soon. I mean, I’m
in my thirties, so I really have no, I think rational way to believe this cause
I can’t keep going forever without kids. If I sincerely want to naturally birth
them. So it was going to happen at some point. But my husband and I had gotten
married and within six months of getting married we got pregnant and we were
just living with each other for the first time as well. So, you know,
unexpected guests was not something that I thought was going to be an hour one
bedroom apartment. And so when we did get, uh, pregnant, there were definitely
mixed feelings of joy of are we ready and what am I going to be doing with my
business and my life?

Angela
Matthews:          05:47                   Because
I feel as if I just started a chapter, a new chapter of my life, and I kinda
thought that marriage, one chapter, uh, children, another career moved here
too. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. We moved from New York city to Texas and it’s like,
yeah, not a chapter. I didn’t think the chapters could blend into one chapter.
I kind of thought it was supposed to be sequential. Yeah. In real life. It’s
just not in real life. Yeah. And so that’s how it happened. And how has, that’s
funny, how has that transition in becoming a parent? Um, personally I guess,
um, shown up for you? Um, yeah. Well for me, I think first being pregnant I
think is an amazing experience to, to be right because you’re creator. And I
feel as if when, when my daughter was inside of me, I thought, Oh my gosh, I’m
not even doing anything and I made a lung today, an eyeball … like Caz and I
would joke about this like, so what’d you do today? I don’t know. I just made a
lung, you know? And it’s like so cool cause you don’t, I mean, yeah, I’m
breathing heavier and those heartburn, but really and truly not what you
thought it would involve to do it. So I loved that part about it and I think it
was a really great lesson to, to show that like we’re enough, no matter what we
do. And I remember moments like that now, even as I, Lee is outside of me and
doing her own thing in the world. I mean, she’s only one and a half and you
know, so I do my own thing in the world, but I remember those moments where it
was like I was prepared. I’m preparing consistently, preparing for something
and have been prepared for whatever it is I’m going through right now.

Angela
Matthews:          07:24                   And
I feel that pregnancy and becoming a parent has taught me that even though I
don’t know if I feel this way now that she’s outside of me like that I can
handle everything that comes with having a kid. I still don’t know the answer
to that. But I suppose if the same logic follows through, I can in theory. And
so it’s just been a transition in terms of understanding my power as well as
understanding that we have the power to create anything. And I feel that that’s
the beautiful part about being a parent, even whether you do it the traditional
way or not for no, totally for sure. Um, well and it’s funny too, I think that
our kids keep us humble cause like when they’re inside you, like I am creating
life, I can create anything. And then they’re here. You’re like, did I even
brush my hair today?

Angela
Matthews:          08:08                   Like
can I brush my teeth? Like you, you know, just, it keeps you very, yeah, it
keeps you grounded in a whole different way. Um, so how do you resonate with,
um, being a business owner and all the different other hats in addition to
being a parent? How do you resonate with what does being More Than A Parent
look like for you? So being more than the parent looks like for me being
everything I can be to help the world and understanding that my daughter and
whomever comes after her is a part of that world. And so what I’ve found is
that when I try to segment the two saying, yes, this is my baby and this is not
my baby, or these are these people and these people I get really scattered. And
then I think that I’m lacking in one area or the other because my business was
actually my first, that was the first thing that I conceived of, had an idea
conception and burst into the world.

Angela
Matthews:          09:03                   And
so it’s really interesting where it’s like you’ve got this one baby, which is
this business and you’ve got this other baby, which is like a real life human
being and you both have missions in the world for these two entities. And so
honoring the fact that I get to the I a mother to the earth and that includes
my daughter, sorry, my hormones. I like being slowly hijacked as Caz raises her
baby. Oh a hard time talking right now cause I’m like there’s a baby in his
cuing and his hands so soft and so simple and I just kinda wanna smell them in
this weird way, but

Caz
Gaddis:                      09:39                   I’m
like, I’m distracting her and I’m like, I can cut out the padding. This is
okay. See this is like so in the moment,

Angela
Matthews:          09:45                   no,
it’s okay. This is good. This is good. This is good. My husband appreciates
you. He wants to have another baby and this is making me think like, Oh baby
for everyone needing a little bit of mom notice right now. Actually cuteness on
everybody here. But yeah, the key, you got to check the show notes if you’re a,
actually, I’m only listening to this. Yeah, this baby has the most precious
here. I mean he’s gonna I don’t know if he wants to be a problem later for
women, but I don’t know. He’s going to cause some drama. I already know it. I’m
sorry. Quest and you will, you will handle it. Anyway.

Caz
Gaddis:                      10:24                   We
digress. And I’m like mom, brain. Cause I’m like, yeah. And so if you’re a new
mom, um, mommy brain doesn’t leave you once a kid comes out, Oh it gets worse.
I didn’t even think it would happen to me cause I, my brain was already bad
before having kids and then it’s like twice in and it’s like, yeah, I just
surrendered. I hear fish oil helps with that really, that supposedly there’s
another supplement I’ll put in the show notes that, um, I forget the name of
again. So, yeah, yeah, I’ll put it in the show notes. But it’s supposed to be
helping for brain development, not just for them when you, when they’re in you,
but also for you after. So or for you if you breastfeed and stuff.

Angela
Matthews:          11:02                   Oh,
that sounds awesome. I think I answered the question though.

Caz
Gaddis:                      11:08                   You
know, the, the most thing about this is that we can go back and listen. But,
um, no, so you were, you were talking about the being More Than A Parent. Oh,
you were talking about, um,

Angela
Matthews:          11:17                   making
the impact [inaudible] entities and not separating and knowing that my impact I
impact just as I’m impacting the world, I’m impacting Leah and as I’m impacting
Leah, I’m also impacting the world. Yeah. A friend that I didn’t get to to, as
long as she’s a, a responsible, happy human being that brings love, joy and
light into the world, then it’s okay if I don’t want to do business for a month
or however long and focus on her because I’m still serving with purpose, which
is to bring beautiful moments.

Caz
Gaddis:                      11:48                   Totally.
I love that. Well, and also too, like you as a wife and like all the travel
that you do together, you and Jerome and such. So yeah, there’s like all these
different entities. I’m, that’s actually a thing. Um, when I was at a comment
as you were saying that is that the other day I have like this five to six foot
dry erase board that’s on wheels. Angela. You’ve seen it every time you come
over. Cause I keep it in my living room. Um, it’s like this permanent fixture
that’s totally not living your mask but it is in our house. Um, but anyway, so
I was brainstorming some stuff on there for, for something later on this year.
And um, I took a picture cause I had a quest in the momma room and then I had a
sky in her little play space locked up.

Caz
Gaddis:                      12:27                   But
then, you know, she was, if you guys do the show notes, you guys will see she’s
okay. And it’s like totally not a thing. You have to call any of the, I almost
said SPCA, but that’s for dogs and CPS. There you go. You don’t have to, cause
you got dogs, you got kids. I mean really I’m player. They can call any one of
them if somebody and make a change, you know, there’s, there’s no calls needing
to be made. Um, I took that picture [inaudible] the picture. I had the bulletin
board, the dry erase board and the two kids. And I was like, Oh, all three of
my kids on this picture and I’m happy you said what you said, because I think a
lot of times, um, those of us listening and watching this later, sometimes
people don’t understand that it’s not just the kids you have, right.

Caz
Gaddis:                      13:06                   There’s
this life that wants to be burst through you and wants to be lifted at you.
There’s this message, this story, this business, this cause, whatever that more
is for you. It’s not always about being an entrepreneur or a, the career you have.
I mean, being at home and volunteering somewhere or starting your own
nonprofit, the point is whatever it is for you, it is also being burst, um,
through you, just like your kids were. Um, and again, if you had kids a
different way, it all counts and it’s all the same, but it’s just about that
creation and that choice of life. So, um, so yeah, so I’m happy you said that
because I felt the same and I’m like, I wonder if that would offend some
people. It’s just like how I, I’m before kids and still, I a lot of times
compared dogs to add to kids and there’s so many similarities.

Caz
Gaddis:                      13:52                   Like
I do not regret it, but I’m just saying. So anyway, moving forward with you.
Does that, to share that? Um, so how, especially with, okay guys. So Angela
travels so very much. Um, how would you describe how much you travel? My
daughter, Leah, is not even two years old yet and she’s been on over 47
flights. Wow. So, yeah. Yeah. And the first year I really thought that I was
like, you know, giving your run for your money. Cause I think at the time, yes,
guy had like 14 or like 15 flights and I’m like, Oh, we’re at the same. And
then you just like, yeah, you just went off, you took off literally like a jet.
Um, but so yeah, so they’ve, you guys have traveled so much and there’s so many
different, um, other factors that go into when you travel as a parent, whether
or not they’re with you, um, as a spouse and then just as a business owner. So
how do you integrate all the things that is part of your life and part of who
you are.

Angela
Matthews:          14:52                   So
it gets a little bit complicated and this is where support really plays a huge
role. So we live in Dallas and our family lives up North, so we don’t really
have, we have calves here and her husband and their, there are legit family
here. Um, so I would never say we don’t have family here, they are legit family
here. But like our mom, shout out to your mom, I love your mom, I love my mom
to our moms and cousins. All those folks that kind of pull in when you’re like,
Hey, can you just hop on by and babysit our kid? Or can we drop the kid off? No
notice who are like, yeah, bring them. We don’t really have that here. And so,
and on top of that I travel, I travel to speak, I travel conferences, I teach
people how to invest in the stock market so we have meetups or I’m on a radio
show and it’s always, who can I find to leave my child with that I actually
trust.

Angela
Matthews:          15:43                   So
when I had my first speaking engagement after Leah, I was breastfeeding at the
time still, I think she was about five and a half months or so and I was going
to go speak at this really big conference and I was like, so I can’t leave her
with her dad. I actually have to bring her. But then I have to be at the
conference and speaking, but I don’t know anyone to trust. And so my mom
actually took off of work the to Orlando just from New York? Yeah, from New
York. Flew to Orlando, sustain a hotel room so that she can watch my daughter.
And in between sessions guys, I would literally run up the elevator,
breastfeed, give her a hugs, like quell my hormones and then run back down and
just act like there is not really a baby, a couple floors up that needs like

[inaudible]

and I’m lactating and my boobs hurt because like this is so not the
breastfeeding schedule that we’re accustomed to.

Angela
Matthews:          16:35                   And
so all this to say is that you have to get creative with it. It’s not super
easy. Um, figuring out the travel, but sometimes they come, sometimes my
husband comes with me, sometimes I go with my husband. He travels a lot, really
demanding job and sometimes we’re like, you know, at least in flies free and we
have the whole flight game. So down pack we like the second we got on a plane,
first of all Leah knows like she’s walking down the aisle now because her legs
when I carry her start hitting people in the head. So she walks down the aisle
we get. So I see it’s almost always a window seat cause he get a little bit
more room. We take out the disinfecting wipes and we like wipe all over the
windows, the little knobs, you should totally wipe that air vent.

Angela
Matthews:          17:17                   They
never cleaned the air vent. It’s disgusting. And then I even wipe the magazines
cause they never touched the magazines. Yeah they don’t. Yeah. Nope. And kids
go straight for the magazines. Right. So the screens or the screen. So do all
that. The antidote, the see everything and the person next to me, even though we
may not even be fine together. Wait, you wipe the person next to you? I wiped
their seat cause you said even the person that I was like wait, yeah I do all
their seats too cause she, she just touches everything and then everything’s
her space and then you just make it work and I try it to make her feel loved
every single step of the way. And we have our books and cash just gave us the
iPad, which is, Oh my gosh, she’s sleeping even through all this noise.

Angela
Matthews:          18:01                   So
talking. Yeah, it’s a way she’s like, he’s just like, okay go ahead. Sorry. You
have to see, I don’t know if in the future how many times you all will be able
to see baby quest and the videos with [inaudible] in this podcast. So
definitely wrap it up. Cause screenshot, it’s, it’s awesome. Yeah. So yeah.
Anyway, that’s how we do it. Um, and it may not be convenient again, but you
make it work. I just went away for 10 days in Bali to Bali and I didn’t have my
husband or my baby and that was the longest I’ve ever been away. It was
absolute freedom because I got to exist like just as a person. Yeah. So again,
I had to pay it, I had to pay for that back. You know, like I’ve been doing
laundry and dinner for like God weeks since I’ve been back and I haven’t
complained.

Angela
Matthews:          18:45                   Not
once. That’s hard for me because as my husband says, I’m never happy. I have
been happy. I at least, and I love post is happy investor message. I do like I
had been happy. I have been trying and I have not even been, I’ve been happy
cause I remember the blessing. Yeah. Well. And with that being said, with your
time in Bali, like you know, I’m joking and saying freedom and it really was,
I’m sure, but did you experience any mom guilt? And that’s cool if you didn’t,
but did you experience anything with like the other hats that you wear here in
the parenting piece? So I gave myself permission to release all feelings of
guilt, of abandonment of all the future potential issues that this chicken may
one day be telling a therapist because I leave so much. I gave myself the
permission and I said a lot there.

Angela
Matthews:          19:36                   But
that’s real though. It’s real. You don’t know like more than my podcast exists.
I have issues from when I was little, but go ahead. Yeah, it’s like playing
chess like you just don’t know. Or like mine sweet. Like my, you don’t know
nobody. Okay. Like the underlying sweep. I will put a screenshot because we
know mine’s sweet. But depending on what you were born when you had kids, if it
was before us or you know if you were younger than us, yeah. You may not know
that, but wait, there’s no more mind. Sweet. Well not everybody knows mine.
Sweet cause that’s gained from back when it is a game back in computers and
when we have internet anyway moved forward and it really knows how to play
mine. Sweet by the way. It’s like you somewhat win but then you always lose it.
There’s not, or maybe that was just me.

Angela
Matthews:          20:18                   But
anyway, go ahead. It’s kinda like parenting. You really don’t know what you’re
doing and you feel like you do and then you hit a bomb and you’re like, Whoa,
yeah then you, we’ll come alive again and you keep going. Yeah. So in this
sense too and entrepreneurship and even if you’re working a nine to five job,
I’m sure there’s times you think you know what you’re doing or at least people
think you do and you probably don’t. But it’s okay. And so, yeah. So all this
to say with Bali I released those feelings and I really gave myself permission
to be there cause I a whole lot of money to be there. And there was no point in
me thinking the same things. I think at home, hundreds of miles away. And I
think because we were in different time zones, even though I really missed her,
I had to contain it because there was nothing I could do, even if I missed her.
And I really wanted to call her and step away from the experience she was
sleeping.

Caz
Gaddis:                      21:05                   Yeah.
Which is a blessing in itself in those moments too when you’re in that. Um, so
for someone listening in, it’s like, wow, like how does she give herself
permission? Like what did you, um, was there anything specific you told
yourself or that you did in order to have that, um, that premonition to truly
just be, because I’m like I mentioned in the PO, in the podcast, being a
present parent and living your more and such, but that looks different for
everyone. And being present doesn’t mean like you’re in their face like this.
Like, you know, um, just face to face all the time and um, it’s being present
when you’re there. Right. And when you, when you choose in certain levels. Um,
so yeah. So what did you say to yourself, um, to be able to do that? Like, is
there anything you can share that could help me?

Angela
Matthews:          21:47                   Yeah.
So I’m, I understand the concept of um, multiple returns, right? Because I
teach folks how to invest my own investments. So I get the idea of putting
something in and then getting multiple, multiple, multiple, multiple iterations
of it like ripples and I to detach specifically for this trip, I knew that I
was at a point where I felt like I was almost losing my essence, like the
essence of Angela and [inaudible]. I just knew that if I was going to be any
good to anyone, daughter, husband, clients, I needed to step away from the game
for a little bit. I needed to, I needed subject. And so that’s kind of what
Bali did for me. Yeah. And that trumps all of the feelings and emotions. Cause
usually it would go like, Oh, you know, we left them, did we do the right
thing? And then it’s no, in my head it was a complete reframe of I left them
because I need to do the right thing.

Angela
Matthews:          22:46                   Mm.
And so that’s what really helped me break away and, and give me the space to do
it. Cause I realized it just, I needed to take a break, I needed to see what
the heck was going on. And sometimes you can’t see it when you are with your
kids and for you it may not be a trip to Bali for you. If you’re listening, it
might be a trip to Starbucks and like it might be a trip to like the Asian spot
down the road that does, you know, like a foot massage for $20. Just a moment
to take a break and just be alone to see what’s even there.

Caz
Gaddis:                      23:21                   Yeah.
Yeah. And I know I’ve talked to a lot of moms and sometimes they’re so tired
that they’re just like, I just want to go somewhere and just do nothing. I’m an
honoring space to do that. And also having space to have these types of, um,
conversations with yourself or just downtime where all that stuff is kind of
ruminating and subconsciously happening anyway. Yeah, just like taking time for
self for sure. So with, uh, have a little dinosaur over here with the meshing
of all the things professionally, personally and parenting Lee, I guess in the
sense, um, what’s been your biggest aha moment besides what you just shared?
Cause I mean that’s a huge aha in the having the multiple returns on, on just
taking time for you. But is there anything else that sticks out to you?

Angela
Matthews:          24:08                   The
previous me may never ever come back. So that was a really big aha for me. I
feel like there was Angela 1.0 single like, you know, coming of age, figuring
out my identity, single loving life, Angela 2.0 making money, found love
married. And then there’s Angela 3.0 which is like, Oh you have a kid and like
you have a husband too. And we’re doing this evolution thing where we’re making
another generation and I’m at the same time I remember thinking, why am I not
as selfish as I used to be? Like, why don’t I care about me as much as I used
to care about me and my impact and my this. And I almost feel as if I had to
realize that that part of me may never come back. That part of Angela that had
tons of energy may never come back.

Angela
Matthews:          25:00                   And
part of Angela, that kid literally work for hours and pull to double all nighters
to get a website done and do all that stuff. She may never come back. And I
think what hurt me the most is not that she may never come back, but I didn’t
know that I had to say goodbye. [inaudible] and um, I almost feel like there is
a grieving process that new parents aren’t aware that they may have. Totally.
And when I realized that I then was able, and I’m still giving myself the
permission to grieve that. And that’s a grieving assassins, you know, it’s
almost like a Phoenix, right, or a butterfly who’s coming out of a cocoon.
It’s, it’s all of that. But I’m sure the butterfly feels a type of way as well.
I’m sure the Caterpillar feels a type of way as well, even though he’s coming
out very beautiful on the other side. So that was a really big aha of me. It’s
like, it’s okay to grieve Angela 2.0

Caz
Gaddis:                      25:59                   that’s
beautiful. And it’s um, it’s so real too because it’s a becoming and it’s an
unbecoming, you know when you have a, I almost said a dog. Oh my gosh. I’m like
so into it and I’m like, why did I just say dog? But you already already
prefaced the conversation like a couple of minutes ago. Like they’re the same
and your boat on 11 very similar but not very the same. So it was okay. Okay,
we’re good. So going back into the space, like we were just in, I’m like, we
were in flow and it was like feeling so, and then I’m like, okay, I’m going to
back. So anyway, so, um, there’s an unbecoming of becoming. And so like when
you become a parent, you’re not always asked, how are you doing? They ask, Oh,
how’s the baby? Right. So that’s like one thing. It’s like you’re not necessarily
being acknowledged always maybe by in general society or your people aren’t
just necessarily taught to think that to even ask how are you doing besides the
the pregnancy getting over and healing and all that kind of stuff.

Caz
Gaddis:                      26:56                   If
you, if you went that route. Um, but then there’s also a becoming a parent and,
and re figuring out, really creating actually, um, what that identity is, but
then there’s an unbecoming of who you were and a new becoming of who you were
outside of the parenting piece. And you said it so beautifully about the, yeah.
Like not even knowing that you’re going to say, because even if you hear this
and you’re not a parent you’re expecting or you’re thinking of one day becoming
a parent or you’re going to become a parent of more than one child, there is
always a new essence, a new self that emerges from all of this. And you don’t
always know what parts you’re going to need to grieve. Right. And, and
grieving. It’s also, um, depending on the cultures. If you were going, going
way deep now.

Caz
Gaddis:                      27:44                   Um,
but depending on the way down. So depending on the culture, like the grieving
is not always, like you were saying Angela, it’s not always a negative thing,
but it’s like a, a reminiscing of what was, and then there becomes like this
kind of joy, right? Like when you are able to be like, Oh, remember that time I
cranked out 30 page essay and like, I ha, you know, whatever. And like you have
all these adventures that you’re able to reminisce back on, but you’re right.
It’s like you’re at a new place. So that’s beautiful that you, um, shared that
with us. I think you,

Angela
Matthews:          28:14                   you’re
welcome. And maybe we don’t need it to be honest. Maybe I don’t need to spend
two nights working on a website because I don’t need to spend two nights to
work on a website. Like maybe there’s a better way to get it done now where I
can include other people to help me with it. Or I can just learn other
skillsets or maybe I don’t even need it at all.

Caz
Gaddis:                      28:35                   That’s
beautiful. And it’s asking yourself, um, like, what’s the opportunity here?

[inaudible]

like, what’s another way to look at it? And, um, another question I
ask myself often with kids and before kids even is, uh, what’s the next best
thing? You know? And how will that, yeah, how will that look? Great question.
What’s the next best thing? I literally mom brain, seriously, that’s my GoTo
question cause I’m like, what was I going to do? And I’m like, why did I come
into the kitchen? I don’t know. What’s the next best thing? I like do something
else in the kitchen. And so like, yeah, when I clean it’s like frenzy mode. It
just goes everywhere. So you’re welcome for that. But thank you though for
sharing that. Um, so with the way that you’re making an impact, I think this is
such a powerful thing to, to really chat about is um, investing, right?

Caz
Gaddis:                      29:24                   Um,
especially in how you teach it. Because as moms, like with, um, if we were
working for a company and we had some maternity leave slash short term
disability, it’s really not that much. And at the timing of it, like I have my
own horror stories about that. But, um, as moms think that we’re not always positioned
financially in a place that really honors where we are and where we need to be
in that season and sometimes can take away from the piece. Right and from the
being present. Um, so when you’re, you know, teaching people in general to
invest, um, especially when I think of moms that are going to be listening to
this, um, there’s just such an opportunity to, what did you call it before the
multiple return thing? There’s so many. Yeah. There’s so many different
multiple returns that comes from investing when you’re a parent that are way
beyond finance and security. Um, so anyway, tell us a little bit more about how
you show up and how you’re making your impact with that. Um, yeah.

Angela
Matthews:          30:24                   Yeah.
Well, I like to think that for my students and clients and whoever hears my
voice in regards to investing, that I’m taking pressure off of your brain so
that you can put something else there that’s more worthy of that space. And so
whether you realize it or not in the back somewhere is the fact that you are
thinking about money. You’re thinking about how can I make my money last? Is my
money enough? What if the money stops coming? Right? These are three questions
that I feel kind of in the background somewhere. It does it. And the reason why
is because we operate on money. It’s not something that, it’s not something
that you know is like this. The thing that doesn’t have an impact, it has a
huge impact and not that it’s necessarily going to make you happy, but it can
definitely be the vehicle to whatever it is that can make you happy.

Angela
Matthews:          31:12                   Right?
And so it’s really important, um, to talk about it, which I don’t think we do
enough. And so, I mean, I’m so passionate about this that even my daughter has
an investment account, right? Lee already has an investment account and that’s
really inspiring to me because there’s so many people in this country who don’t
even have investment accounts. And for her to not even be too yet and to its
own stock. To me that I’m already setting her up energetically to receive more.
Right. You know, I didn’t start investing until I was in somebody’s twenties
and my parents didn’t do it either. My dad even worked for a bank and he still
didn’t invest in the stock market. And so when I think about, well what happens
when we pass away? Like my father passed away and I’m thinking like what if
someone taught him while he was in this bank, how to invest?

Angela
Matthews:          31:59                   My
life would look really different right now. I wouldn’t have had to pay for
college, I wouldn’t have had to pay for our wedding. You know, I’d probably be
in a different house or maybe it would’ve had a house sooner. Who knows? I
don’t know. Maybe I wouldn’t force it. Take a job that I didn’t want to take
cause I had money to, to explore. And so when I think about that and I think
about, well my children, my daughter, but in a piece such a beautiful gift to
give them those options and that’s what investing to me does. It’s like I’m
going to invest in a company where I know there’s a really good chance that
you’ll be around here longer than me and that doesn’t really make me afraid
because that makes know that someone is going to be taking care of what’s mine
when I’m no longer here to do it. And that’s why I love investing and that’s
why I’m so passionate about teaching it, especially in a parents cause I know
that we want to give our kids swimming lessons and drum lessons and gymnastics
and I can go on a whole nother tangent with these fricking extra activities
that I never had when I was growing up. That’s fine. And nice people out here
trying to make me spend on rent money on fricking activities. I’m not going to
go into it. I just did, but I’m going to stop anyway.

Angela
Matthews:          33:09                   I
got you. [inaudible] happens when you go to [inaudible] places. You’re like,
dude, like, well it was your kidding. Nothing. Go to the park anyway. What if I
took that money? That could have been for gymnastics and purchased a share of
Apple? Hmm. What if I took that money too? Which I was going to buy that really
nice pair of Nike’s and bought a share Nike, you know, starting to think that
way. Which one’s gonna last longer? Yeah, the Nike share or the shoe Nike.
Which one’s going to last longer? The gymnastic class that she probably won’t
even ever remember and will still probably be awkward as hell. Cause I’m
awkward as hell and that’s just genetics.

Caz
Gaddis:                      33:47                   See
you guys. She’s not lying. Angela can be slightly off

Angela
Matthews:          33:50                   when
it goes to movement. I’m a black person that can’t dance. It’s weird. So how do
we get back from that? Like there’s no real, yeah, like I’m saying, I mean just
think about what if you can start thinking about what can you leave behind for
your kids even when you’re here so that you’re really impacting so many
generations. Like imagine Leah has, our account is already set up. You know
what Lee is going to do when she gets a baby, she’s going to already have an
investment account for them because she knows this is what we do. Yeah. And so,
I mean all this to say is we love providing for our kids, but let’s think about
how we can provide for them and many more ways than we already do right now.
Yeah. That already grows for itself. Like when you purchase a stock, chances
are you just going to leave it there and it does all the hard work for you.
It’s not like you, I don’t have to take a kid to like a practice. I don’t have
to really into this example. I’m sorry. I, okay. I stop really feeling right
now. If you have your kids in these wonderful activities, bless your heart, it
brings a wonderful smile on their face and I’m sure it lights you up and that’s
totally worth it. But you better buy them some stock too.

Caz
Gaddis:                      35:08                   I’m
like, cause you’ve taken her to swim lessons. I haven’t done anything yet. So
future. I say this as a person who’s done this stuff. [inaudible] I know.
That’s where I’m like, this is hilarious. Well, and just to finish the thought
about the whole dancing piece, it’s like, cause I know you do Zoomba and I’m
Hispanic and I love dancing. But when I’m in Zoomba it looks like I have two
left feet. Like I don’t understand what happens between the mirror, the person
in front of me and my lack of ability to mimic either they’re just like ignore
them. Like just so yes, I got you. I got it.

Angela
Matthews:          35:39                   I
do take Zoomba and I love it and I just, it was about surrendering to the point
of, you know what? Maybe we can dance and that’s okay. That’s not my problem.
It’s the problem of the person next to me is the problem. The person in back
backing me, following me thinking that they can actually learn from me cause
I’m black and I shouldn’t her in today, you gotta learn today we all can’t do
it. But now I’m actually really, really good until she puts it on. Well, yeah,
I mean you get good at something.

Caz
Gaddis:                      36:08                   Yeah,
yeah, yeah.

Angela
Matthews:          36:09                   Twice
a week for six months, the same songs. You figure it out

Caz
Gaddis:                      36:14                   and
then they switched it up on you and you’re like, ah, here we go again. Why you
do this to me? I know why. That’s hilarious. So, okay, so back to the
investment piece and, and kind of like the dancing of the rhythmic flow of, of
investing. See how I tried to tie it back in there. And so what would you tell
a mom who has never invested before and it’s just like, it just feels so
foreign. It feels I’m so wall street and just to think of, and the average, an
average quote unquote right. Cause none of us are average were all amazing
darling, darling. So anyway, so for that mom though, like yeah, I was trying to
moving boy. So for that mom, what would you tell her are like the first, first
thing to do to be able, besides obviously connecting with you and like just
learning from all the things that you have available, what would you tell them
that first step would be?

Angela
Matthews:          37:04                   So
I think the first step is his mindset, right? It’s the choice. We all have a
choice. You make a choice to get up out of your bed, all that stuff. And so
it’s making the choice to decide like, I’m gonna do this. Once you make the
choice to finally say I’m going to do this, everything else follows. It’s the
before we make the decision to do it, that all the hard work is, right? Cause
you’re like, should I make this decision? Should I not? Should I do it? Should
I not? But once you say, I’m gonna do it, everything else follows. And so just
like how you were like, I’m gonna pop this baby out because it needs to come
out. You’re going to do it right. You’re going to decide to do it. Just as if
maybe if you adopted a kid and you went to go pick the kid up, you’re doing it
right.

Angela
Matthews:          37:44                   You
made a choice. Same thing goes with investing. And so what I want to say to you
is just decide that I want to do this. And then like when you make a decision
that you want to do something, all the answers start coming. Like when you say
you want to get a certain kind of car, then all of a sudden you start seeing
it, there’s a pituitary gland in the back here of our head. And what it does is
it remembers the things that we actually say, right? And then once we say it,
it tries to always connect dots. And so the second it sees it, it’s going to
say, Hey, there it goes. Hey there it goes because you actually said it, but it
won’t connect anything unless you make a decision for it to like actually do
something. So I’ll make a decision to invest.

Angela
Matthews:          38:20                   Chances
are if you are a woman, statistically you are better at investing than men of
faculty. I rarely tell women. Yeah, yeah, our investments do better than men.
Um, and that’s because we understand people more. So more or less we give them
an a second chance. And so if an investment doesn’t do well in the beginning, a
guy is usually like cut you at my life and like you’re done. And the woman’s
like, wait, wait, wait. Maybe it’ll come back up. Let’s give it a chance. Let’s
see what happens. Yes. And that’s [inaudible] companies and stocks. They’re run
by people. It’s like someone Monday might invest in me in my business, but they’re
investing in me. You know, when someone invests in, in Google or an Amazon or
Nike, you’re investing in the leadership of that company. You don’t care about
what they actually do. You’re trusting the leaders.

Angela
Matthews:          39:08                   And
so you have to have grace with them as you would with any person. And you also
have to have sense to know when it’s just not gonna work out. So all this to
say is figure out that you actually want to do it. And then you can do some
basic stuff, right? You can get free accounts. It doesn’t cost to trade. And so
instead of going out to dinner with Bay, maybe you think, you know what, I’m
just going to take this $40 and I’m just going to buy a stock of like bank of
America. And so it doesn’t cost a trade anymore. It used to cost like $10 now
it’s free. And so really just, just dip a toe and of course have guidance. So
if you really don’t know what to do, check out my website. I have tons of
goodies and, and freebies to get you familiar with it to start talking about
it. But it’s worth the discomfort. It will be uncomfortable because you don’t
know it. Right. Just like parenting, we don’t know what the hell we’re doing. I
was just about to say, I still don’t know. My kids were so young in it. This
was probably folks who’ve had kids longer than us who are like you young. It’s
like, I don’t know. I’ve heard it

Caz
Gaddis:                      40:06                   some
that are like, I still don’t know how they survived.

Angela
Matthews:          40:09                   This
is true too. So yeah, you can do it. Just get comfortable with the discomfort
and like everything, it’s gonna get better with practice. Like my Zumba.

Caz
Gaddis:                      40:18                   Yeah,
no that’s [inaudible] I love how you went back there cause that can’t be what I
say. Cause my zoom is still not, I got some cool Zoomba shoes though. Like no
joke. The shoes girl. Okay. So just for everyone out there, there are Zoomba
shoes, you can get them on Amazon. They’re like 70 bucks. I bought them right
before I got pregnant again. I never used them yet, but I will now. They should
still be good cause

Angela
Matthews:          40:41                   nine,
seven, nine, eight. I was a seven and a half. Then I had that kid and my

[inaudible]

, nobody tells me that part either.

Caz
Gaddis:                      40:49                   They
don’t tell you you’re releasing and taking on so many different things. But
anyway, I got some issues. I’m committing. I’m recommitting soon to doing
Zoomba. Just not right now, the soon. So maybe I can tell you one day, uh, that
I, you know, can someone do it? Um, so, but okay. So with all the things you
said about investing, and I love that you were able to get this also started
for Leah and kind of starting a new family tradition in a sense, a culture as
of wealth mindset, which is super freaking full. And uh, you know, both of my
parents are entrepreneurs. They never taught me about budgeting, about wealth
management, any of that. And so, um, you know, there’s, there’s a lot there
that I think of, man, how could I have been set up differently, right? Like you
were talking about that too.

Caz
Gaddis:                      41:32                   Um,
and it’s like what can we do now as this generation with the generation that we
are creating and how will that impact not just our kids but that generation
moving forward? Like I just got like goosebumps thinking of that. Um, because
even these conversations about being a parent and I’m talking about how hard it
is and like it is going to be hard. Like it’s not like a negative thing. It’s
like that’s just what it is. It’s a challenge and it’s how do you rise and to
meet that we weren’t having those conversations, you know, a decade or two ago.
And if we did, I obviously wasn’t a parent, so I don’t know. But no, for real
though, we weren’t having the, the consciousness question, um, conversations or
just like the, the reality of it, we were just like, Oh, parenting and this is
what we did for my child and there’s so much more to go deeper on.

Caz
Gaddis:                      42:16                   So
that’s really powerful in that vein with Leah, um, being almost two and like
they’re just mega observers. Um, as they’re observing who you’re being and what
it is that you’re doing in the world, what would you want her to be able to say
about you as a person? Um, and, and what you’re doing as that person, um, you
know, a year or two from now, what would you want her to be able to, or even
further than that, cause I know that they’re gonna still be kinda young, but
what would you want Leah to be able to say about who you’re being now in the
future?

Angela
Matthews:          42:48                   I
would love her to say she did it. She’s doing it and whatever it is, it’s just
something for the better of the world. Something for the better of, of her
sake. Um, really interesting. My dad, when he put my dad passed away
eventually, right? And [inaudible] on his tombstone, he actually has had for
where with all to tell, it’s like, this is what I want to be on my tombstone.
And his tomb stone says right now in Queens, it says, I tried to where it’s
literally I tried and I, so my core believe that he honestly did. He tried to
give us a better life. He tried to make us skip people and he really tried. You
know, and I suppose, I don’t know, I don’t want to get all cryptic and like
what’s on my tombstone, but I dunno. But I do want Leah and my children when
they think of me to say she did and, and that’s it. And I did it with love. I
did it with grace, I did it with joy and I did it even though I didn’t want to
at times.

Caz
Gaddis:                      44:00                   I’m
sorry we were good. And then like you like, and I didn’t want no, no. And even
when I die real, no, I appreciate that. I just

Angela
Matthews:          44:07                   cause
they’re real, it’s real. Sometimes you wake up and you don’t want to do it.
Yeah. And I feel as if right now there might be an energy of like, Oh well we
have to be in flow or it has to align and it has to do this. And that’s just
not true for success. People say it and I hate it how fricking catchy it is.
But you have to get comfortable with discomfort. Yeah. And sometimes it’s not
gonna feel good. When I first started doing webinars and only 50 people were
there, I literally would throw up and poop before it didn’t feel good. I would
literally throw up like it, it, it really made me feel so uncomfortable and now
I have webinars and there could be like hundreds of people on there and it
feels so natural.

Caz
Gaddis:                      44:50                   Yeah.
Well, go ahead. Go ahead. I’m sorry. No, yeah, that’s it. Yeah. I was just
gonna say that’s awesome too, that, um, it’s all perspective and it’s all
definition of the different words or the different things. So like you said, 50
and I’m like, man, that’s great. No, he is hands on, right? Like, you know,
like, um, I remember when I was doing a in person, like live meetups, you know,
some meetups, I’d have like a whole bunch of people. Um, and then some I have
like none, which were not oftentimes or have one or two. But then it’s, it’s
very discomforting, very uncomfortable, discomforting. Oh no, that is a word.
Anyway, it’s real. And that’s what you were experiencing. You’re experiencing
discomfort. It was discomfort. Yeah. Because it just, it, you can make it say
so much about you or about what it is that you’re doing.

Caz
Gaddis:                      45:35                   And
it’s so easy, especially when we’re parents, cause it’s already hard. Right? A,
it’s so easy to just be like, you know what, this wasn’t for me. Or maybe this
is not my season to do this or you know, maybe I’m not enough. I preach it.
There’s so much enoughness challenges already in being a parent. Like today
y’all like, okay. So today I’ve recorded a few different podcasts on, you may
have heard this on one of the ones before this one, but like today there was so
many things that went wrong that could have totally made me be like, you know
what, I’m not meant to podcast, especially not video cast as well. Um, with
these, these children. Um, but I made it work because at the end of the day,
it’s about just showing up and done is better than perfect. And with investing,
just get started and, and look at what it can create for your family. Um, cause
in my perspective anyway, and I’m Angela, I’m gonna let you talk in a minute
again, but no, like I’m like Faya okay. Anyway, so, but in my perspective, um,
when you realize the power that you have, the impact that you can make or you
start creating that purpose that you want your realize it’s no longer about
you, it’s beyond you. It’s beyond our kids if you so choose it to be. And um,
yeah, it all starts with the power of choice. Like you were saying. So back to
you.

Angela
Matthews:          46:55                   Yeah,
you’re absolutely right. You’re absolutely right. I mean, I just think it’s
amazing that you are doing this in a way where people get to authentically or
even if they want to be inauthentic, it doesn’t matter, just present themselves
and really think about what it is they’re doing to take a moment and pause. I
guess sometimes we’re just so much on autopilot that we don’t even realize to
say like stop and assess, stop and assess like, Hey, I haven’t thought about
investing in like two years. Or I remember before I had these kids, I was
thinking about that all the time that on my vision board and now someone gets
to realign and reconnect to it perhaps. Maybe. And I do think there are
actually men here listening to fathers. Totally. Yeah, I’ve heard, yeah.
Fathers actually telling me about your podcast. So I totally know for sure that
there are men who listen and maybe there’s even a, a man who our father who is
feeling this way and doesn’t have a space to voice it. Yeah. You know, it’s a
voice that there was like to him prior to kids that is literally morning or a
hymn that is now protector and father and all this stuff when he was just like
a guy.

Caz
Gaddis:                      48:03                   Just
him. Yeah, no, totally. And that’s actually, so the reason I chose More Than A
Parent as a name, and I’m happy you brought this up because I think it’s so
important. So you can be a stay at home parent and be either or, right? You can
be a mom or dad or you can be a mom and in this day and age you can identify as
a dad or whatever the mix is, whatever is going on for you. Um, there, the
reason I chose More Than A Parent is because I do want to talk to moms
primarily because that’s who I am and that’s what I can relate to and bring
people on it and chat about that. And overall moms are having more of these
different challenges that we’re addressing, but, but dads have like even more
so in a lot of ways in a traditional relationship because then they’re the
providers normally.

Caz
Gaddis:                      48:43                   So
then they’re having to, like, my husband’s going through that right now. He is
working so much, he’s a filmmaker, he’s a director of photography. He’s on set
almost everyday. And I know when we first had a quest, he was on set straight
for the first two weeks, um, after a couple of days of being at home with us.
And what that caused was, um, he was able to, you know, provide for us or whatnot,
but it was also costing him not being able to focus on his creative areas that
he normally was on in his business. Um, his, uh, his own podcast, his own blog.
So it’s like you’re still having to say yes to one thing and you’re having to
silence or pause temporarily, this other part of you. So it’s very real
regardless of, yeah. Regardless if you’re a man or a woman, mom or a dad. Um,
so yeah, like, yeah, no, I barely lost my train of thought at the end, so
that’s why

Angela
Matthews:          49:34                   no,
it’s solely, yeah, no, it’s real. And if you happen to be a father listening to
this, um, we accept you. We embrace you. Yeah. You’re your, I was gonna say
ally, but I’m like, you’re not an ally. You’re in it like you’re like your fear
ally. Like we get you. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And spouses. It’s okay to feel
whatever it is that you’re feeling. Um, like none of us know what we’re doing
right now to be quite honest and Frank. They’re responsible and we just have to
trust that it’s gonna work out. But yeah, we’re all in this.

Caz
Gaddis:                      50:05                   Yeah,
we tried to be responsible anyway. At least that’s me, but not totally. So.
Okay. So the last question I have for you, um, cause I know you have some other
stuff with business and then you have to pick up Leah here in a little bit, is,
um, if you could go back in time, um, just when you were first kind of getting
or in the midst of getting your groove together around, you know, being a mom,
you know, continuing with

Angela
Matthews:          50:28                   your
entrepreneurship, we’ve had so many conversations around this. If you could go
back to that, that you back then, even if it’s at you that was at the park with
me that one time, but whoever you, you want to want to be, what would you tell
them about, I’m like, what’s my question? What would you tell them? What would
you share with them about the journey that they’re on and where they’re at?
Where are you? I remember the park. That was not fun. It was okay. It was, um,
to give context, we had just, I think, cause I, we took the kids out to um,
take walks cause we were inside and it lost our baby weight. And like the part
just would give you guys a description of this, the park, um, the sidewalk that
you walk on was not enough. It was not wide enough for both of our strollers.

Angela
Matthews:          51:17                   So
we were like having like real deep life conversations and we had it either one
being in front of the other or kind of side by side. It was awkward. Yeah, it
was, it was, we tried because at the time I think we hadn’t been out the house
like in days spoke to each and spoke to other people besides like this baby
that we just had and our husbands at night when they got home. And um, okay. It
was really hard I think at that point because the shininess of a new baby I
think was starting to wear off for me. Hmm. And for other people too. So not as
many people were like calling a checkin and all that stuff. And, um, I remember
also having expectations about my body. Like how am I gonna look the way that I
want to look like as my husband’s still attracted to me.

Angela
Matthews:          52:00                   Um,
it was just really, I felt so disempowered in that in that time. And I’m not
saying that I don’t still struggle with some of the things that were impacting
me at that point, but I definitely remember feeling hopeless. Yeah, definitely
remember feeling hopeless and Caz and her fragile state as well. It’s really
interesting that even though she might have identified it was personally going
through, was personally going through whatever she was going through, she still
had like the wherewithal to, to lend a hand. Almost like a, you know, when
someone’s like in a hole and someone puts a hand down. Um, and it’s almost like
halo goes over their head like because their head is blocking the sun and it
looks like a Saint thingy. That’s kind of what Caz was for me that day. And,
um, we really talked talk to do a lot of stuff, but it was just kind of giving
me the space to say what was happening, things that I secretly thought in my
head and I, if I had a time machine to go back to the Angela at that park, I
think I just say, who cares in a way.

Caz
Gaddis:                      53:05                   Like
the thoughts I thought was like, Oh, am I this or am I that? And I know I
cared, but I almost want to say like there’s other things to care about and you
will rise. I would tell myself that you will rise like a Phoenix in the ashes
and um, you’ll thrive again sooner than you realize. That’s what I would’ve
told myself. What, I mean, there’s concept of time is word and all, so. Yeah,
no, I totally get that. Um, no, and it’s, we were all in similar situations at
different parts. Does that make sense? Even though they’re different to
ourselves. But, um, you know, I’ve had part conversations with you too where,
um, and we, we were trying to mastermind while we were with these kids in
strollers and other park walking’s. I’m just trying to figure out like how do
we re commit or rebirth our business or burst something new and a new energy to
it too while we were, um, also with these babies and just trying to figure out
all of life. Um, so that’s beautiful that you um, that shared that because I
think too, there’s so many expectations both spoken and unspoken from
ourselves, society, our spouses, family, um, about how all of this is supposed
to go.

Caz
Gaddis:                      54:25                   And
the truth is, and, and the beauty of it is no one freaking knows. We’re all
doing the best we can with where we’re at. Um, and I love that you said, who
cares? Because really it’s just like just, just get through it. Just do what
you feel is the best for you and your family and all the other things. Like
they’ll resolve themselves in their own way and in time. Absolutely. They will.
All those things that you’re going through right now, you just have to trust
that just as it got resolved in the past, it is working its way out. Even as we
speak. Even as you listen to this, it isn’t working itself out. Yeah. For your
good. Yeah, totally. Yeah. Conspiring with you. Yeah. And so I super appreciate
your time today. I know we went over, um, a little bit, so I appreciate the
extra time with you today and just sharing with us, I really love the power in
what you shared about the investing and like it’ll be there longer than than we
will be, you know, even if we were to live to be a hundred years old or a
little bit more than that, it’s still beyond us and it’s our, our kids, but
also could impact their kids and the kids after that, besides just the
community in general.

Caz
Gaddis:                      55:38                   So
that was really powerful for people who want to connect with you more. Obviously
I’ll put everything in the show notes, but can you share with us to where they
can go to connect with you further?

Angela
Matthews:          55:47                   Sure.
You can go to Angela E matthys.com please do not forget the E, they’re about
150 other Angela Matthews in the world. So that one and one of you, there’s
only one of me though. You’re so sweet. So that’s how you can go to connect on
is I, you’ll find things on how to invest, how to get started. There’s a nice,
wonderful copy of a 25 stocks worth $25 or less that are four stars on higher.
So investing is truly your jam. Go for it. And also you’ll see on there my
random philosophical thoughts on life and deeper thoughts. If you couldn’t
figure it out, do here in this podcast, I’m a bit of a Yogi, a philosopher.

Angela
Matthews:          56:24                   And
so we go deep into stuff like that,

Caz
Gaddis:                      56:26                   which
I love cause it’s bringing all the dimensions. It’s a holographic investing.
Oh, like a chew. Hey. Okay. Okay. So we just did like a little, I did a wiggly
thing with my hands. If you can see it was like a, yeah, I don’t know where I
was going with it. But anyway, on that note, thank you for being on the show
today. I appreciate you. Um, just thank you for who you are in this life, not
just for your family, but also for your friends, for me. Um, because this, this
mom journey should not, while there’s times we feel alone, even when we’re
surrounded by family or our spouses or the kids, cause they’re always there.
Um, but it’s not meant to feel like you’re going alone. Mommying parenting
alone. You’re, you’re, um, you’re that much better when you have a community.
So thank you for being part of my community and thank you for being part of my
family. Yeah, likewise. Love you. And anyway, so cool. Thank you all for
listening. Thank you for listening to because are a part of our community.
We’re growing this. Um, this is not just like a podcast, right? This is so much
more and as you hear in the end of the outro here, we have a community and
we’re all creating it together. It’s a cocreation so that we have that support.
We have sounding boards with one another. We can brainstorm. We can, um,
support each other and just go from there. Grow from there, just saying.

Angela
Matthews:          57:48                   Yeah,
absolutely. And when Caz has a, an a live event, I can’t wait to meet you in
person. Really. You get to just throw that out there like this gone throw it
out there. You know, why not just putting it out there. Okay. We’ll see. Yeah.
Hopefully that’d be awesome to do for sure. Hey, is that going to happen? It’s
More Than A Parent friends away on an Island somewhere.

Caz
Gaddis:                      58:11                   Hey,
thanks for listening to this episode of More Than A Parent to be your more live
here and continue the conversation with us and connect at More Than A Parent
dot. M N. dot. C O.

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